hi Druidmaster
1. afaik there is no way to create a "legal" drow in bgII, the way you fake one is to create an usual elven char and give him black skin and white hair, so he looks like an usual drow.
the magic resistance is not that big deal either, you could edit them with sk, although the MR is a bit wrong implimentet in BG cuz usually the MR of a drow will increase with their level, but it would be possible to just give your PC an "natural" MR of 60%
the part which you will not be able to edit is the reaction/racism of others,
for example it is not very likely that arie, keldorn or anomen would join your group if your PC was a drow, i heard vicci would not romance an elven char either and for gaming purposes you are an elve so that would be off to, and the last chapter of the game would run completly different i think
2. yes there is a mod where you could turn this off, but there are reasons why the items desintegreat, this is completly PnP conform
