The Succeeder Stronghold

Oscuro_Sol · Post by **Oscuro_Sol** » Fri Mar 03, 2006 7:39 pm

[QUOTE=Fiona]OS, Why not just talk to him? It can't do any harm at all. He might even be interesting[/QUOTE]
Talk to him WHEN? Say WHAT?

Fiona · Post by **Fiona** » Fri Mar 03, 2006 7:40 pm

Talk to him when you get the chance.Say anything Most people don't know what to say. They usually help if you start. It is the relief of not having to think of anything

Phreddie · Post by **Phreddie** » Fri Mar 03, 2006 7:40 pm

Os, just talk to the guy, ive been in several situations where i have been sitting with someone that I really like, people that I liked enough to have a better relationships with, but chose not to because I was 'afriad' of what could go wrong, I always regretted afterwards, just do it and you wont have any regrets.

Athena · Post by **Athena** » Fri Mar 03, 2006 7:41 pm

A serious question; do you concider yourself attractive? (If the answer is 'yes' then he was sitting there because you were there) It doesn't have to be all about (Lina) all the time. Think about you and him, not her. Make eye contact. Be brave, chit chat, for chrissakes!

And above all, smile!!

slade · Post by **slade** » Fri Mar 03, 2006 7:42 pm

good night people

Magrus · Post by **Magrus** » Fri Mar 03, 2006 7:43 pm

Kitten, just...go up to him and say "I like you, we should hang out some time" and hand him a piece of paper with your number on it. *shrugs* Simple, and it leaves it up to him. You don't have to say "I want to have your baby" or anything like that, and it covers the points that you have interest in him and want to spend time with him.

You are basically going round and round hoping he expresses interest. Personally I flat out ignore girls like that. What if he is shy and likes you, but thinks your avoiding him because your friend is interested in him? Ever think of that?

Night slade!

Athena · Post by **Athena** » Fri Mar 03, 2006 7:43 pm

bye slade.

Oscuro_Sol · Post by **Oscuro_Sol** » Fri Mar 03, 2006 7:45 pm

[QUOTE=Athena]Talk to him when you get the chance.Say anything Most people don't know what to say. They usually help if you start. It is the relief of not having to think of anything

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He's always surrounded by friends... or whoever...
[QUOTE=Phreddie]Os, just talk to the guy, ive been in several situations where i have been sitting with someone that I really like, people that I liked enough to have a better relationships with, but chose not to because I was 'afriad' of what could go wrong, I always regretted afterwards, just do it and you wont have any regrets.[/QUOTE]
Well I already regret going over to Brooklyn... I could of helped her, after, maybe? Would that be considered being a bad friend? I don't know.

[QUOTE=Athena]A serious question; do you concider yourself attractive? (If the answer is 'yes' then he was sitting there because you were there) It doesn't have to be all about her all the time. Think about you and him, not her. Make eye contact. Be brave, chit chat, for chrissakes![/QUOTE]
I don't know? I don't think I'm ugly, I guess I'm average. I guess I shouldn't think about Lina in all of it, but I'm so scared that she would betray me and flirt with him or something.

Bye slade.

[QUOTE=Maggy]Kitten, just...go up to him and say "I like you, we should hang out some time" and hand him a piece of paper with your number on it. *shrugs* Simple, and it leaves it up to him. You don't have to say "I want to have your baby" or anything like that, and it covers the points that you have interest in him and want to spend time with him.

You are basically going round and round hoping he expresses interest. Personally I flat out ignore girls like that. What if he is shy and likes you, but thinks your avoiding him because your friend is interested in him? Ever think of that?[/QUOTE]
I don't know, everything's so messed up!

Demortis · Post by **Demortis** » Fri Mar 03, 2006 7:47 pm

So whats goin on?

Magrus · Post by **Magrus** » Fri Mar 03, 2006 7:49 pm

@ Kitten, So what if he's with friends? If they say something, ignore them and focus on HIM. I outright whack my buddies when they get all uppity when a girl and I are talking. A quick backhand works right quick to quiet the background noise when I'm flirting. :laugh:

Hmm, I still think you should just be outright honest with the boy. It may not work out how you want it to be, but at least he knows, straight up, what you want from him and why. There won't be a communication problem then. You'll know whether or not he likes you and you won't be so miserable and worried about it, one way or the other.

On a side note...Lori had a dream I married her this week. :speech:

Evil, bad, wicked marriage.

Athena · Post by **Athena** » Fri Mar 03, 2006 7:50 pm

[QUOTE=Magrus]Kitten, just...go up to him and say "I like you, we should hang out some time" and hand him a piece of paper with your number on it. *shrugs* Simple, and it leaves it up to him.... it covers the points that you have interest in him and want to spend time with him.

You are basically going round and round hoping he expresses interest. Personally I flat out ignore girls like that. What if he is shy and likes you, but thinks your avoiding him because your friend is interested in him? Ever think of that?

Night slade![/QUOTE]

Yes, yes, the piece of paper! And above all, smile! It'll make everyone feel good

Back to the attraction thing. If you think you're average, he probably thinks your pretty. We women are our own worst critics. Don't sell yourself short. Back to what Magrus said. Ever think of that?

Well, I'm leaving. Aloha and goodnight.

Magrus · Post by **Magrus** » Fri Mar 03, 2006 7:53 pm

[QUOTE=Athena]Back to the attraction thing. If you think you're average, he probably thinks your pretty. We women are our own worst critics. Don't sell yourself short.[/QUOTE]

*nods* I generally end up with some gorgeous girl who has no self-esteem, who just got out of a bad relationship because she didn't think she deserved better until she got sick of the bruises.

Girls are way too hard on themselves now-a-days thinking they all have to be a size 2, 6 feet tall and wear slutty clothes to look good.

Personality does count too, and Kitten, you happen to have a wonderful personality. He may actually like you for who you are. That goes a long way.

Goodnight Athena. Have fun!

Oscuro_Sol · Post by **Oscuro_Sol** » Fri Mar 03, 2006 7:53 pm

Hi Demo.

[QUOTE=Magrus]@ Kitten, So what if he's with friends? If they say something, ignore them and focus on HIM. I outright whack my buddies when they get all uppity when a girl and I are talking. A quick backhand works right quick to quiet the background noise when I'm flirting. :laugh:

Hmm, I still think you should just be outright honest with the boy. It may not work out how you want it to be, but at least he knows, straight up, what you want from him and why. There won't be a communication problem then. You'll know whether or not he likes you and you won't be so miserable and worried about it, one way or the other.

On a side note...Lori had a dream I married her this week. :speech:

Evil, bad, wicked marriage.

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I dunno... I found out that a couple of his friends are my friends too... like Chris, for one, and this guy Sean. But they seem so scary when they're with him. :laugh:

Marriage? :laugh: *tries hard to imagine Maggy married*

[QUOTE=Athena]Yes, yes, the piece of paper! And above all, smile! It'll make everyone feel good

Back to the attraction thing. If you think you're average, he probably thinks your pretty. We women are our own worst critics. Don't sell yourself short.[/QUOTE]
I'm trying to remember if I was smiling this morning... I can't remember... either I was really tired or I was so surprised he came down and sat by me.

Bye Athena. Thanks for the advice.

Well... I know I'm very critical of myself... so is Lina, but I think she's only compliment fishing... dunno though...

Fiona · Post by **Fiona** » Fri Mar 03, 2006 7:54 pm

@ OS. Well I don't know much about this sort of thing but I certainly could not do what Magrus and Athena suggest. I could talk to him, like I said. But I couldn't say I liked him at this stage, in your position. Because I wouldn't know if that was true. It would be what I was trying to find out. Don't know if that makes sense to you. Anyway if you just talk it doesn't matter who else is there.

Oscuro_Sol · Post by **Oscuro_Sol** » Fri Mar 03, 2006 7:56 pm

[QUOTE=Fiona]@ OS. Well I don't know much about this sort of thing but I certainly could not do what Magrus and Athena suggest. I could talk to him, like I said. But I couldn't say I liked him at this stage, in your position. Because I wouldn't know if that was true. It would be what I was trying to find out. Don't know if that makes sense to you. Anyway if you just talk it doesn't matter who else is there.[/QUOTE]
No, I understand. That's exactly how I feel.

Magrus · Post by **Magrus** » Fri Mar 03, 2006 7:59 pm

@ Kitten, Yeah...I don't do the marriage concept. Committment, I have no problem with. Well...now I do, I'm still hung up on a dead girl, committing now would be ludicrous. However, that is odd she dreamed of me, especially the marriage thing.

Guys act differently when they're with "the guys", just like girls act differently alone with a group of girls than in a mixed group. Don't worry about that.

If you fit in with some of his friends, chances are he'll get along well with you.

@ Fiona, She likes him, she's expressed that. It doesn't mean "I have romantic feelings for you", just "I like you". I like my friends, I'm not afraid of saying so. He obviously doesn't mind her if he is willing to sit next to her, talk to her, and use pet names in getting her attention as she has mentioned. That, indicates he wouldn't mind her expressing basic interest in wanting to get to know him, to me anyways. Whether or not that goes as far as she wants in what he wants, well...I suppose that's the thing in question, no?

Fiona · Post by **Fiona** » Fri Mar 03, 2006 8:03 pm

Again I don't agree, Mag. You can be attracted and interested in getting to know someone better, but not sure what they are really like. In this country if you say you like someone you are saying more than the dictionary implies. It feels like more committment than is warranted. But we are all different. I like to get to know someone well before opening up any potential misunderstanding, is all

Oscuro_Sol · Post by **Oscuro_Sol** » Fri Mar 03, 2006 8:05 pm

[QUOTE=Magrus]@ Kitten, Yeah...I don't do the marriage concept. Committment, I have no problem with. Well...now I do, I'm still hung up on a dead girl, committing now would be ludicrous. However, that is odd she dreamed of me, especially the marriage thing.

Guys act differently when they're with "the guys", just like girls act differently alone with a group of girls than in a mixed group. Don't worry about that.

If you fit in with some of his friends, chances are he'll get along well with you.

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Red or white roses at the wedding, Mag? :laugh:

Yeah... well... just from liking people I've noticed how ... mean, I guess, I was before. I didn't like a lot of people, for no reason, really, maybe I heard something about them that someone heard from another person, and they heard it from whoever... But I'm not like that now, if a friend of mine says that so-and-so is a *****, I just won't comment because I don't know the person, how my friend got the information, and if it's true at all! I dunno how I learned that from him...

:laugh:
[QUOTE=Fiona]I like to get to know someone well before opening up any potential misunderstanding, is all[/QUOTE]
*nod* That's same as me. I feel much more comfortable talking to the person when I know them, like, as a friend.

Magrus · Post by **Magrus** » Fri Mar 03, 2006 8:06 pm

Meh, then she can say "I like you as a friend" to end the confusion. It makes more sense to come right out and say what you KNOW, in order to get further with what you want to know IMO. You make sure both parties involved know what is going on so no confusion occurs. Confusion and lack of communication leads to problems, misunderstandings and feelings being hurt from my experience.

Black roses, and no wedding.

Her family would freak if they found out she married a white boy though. :laugh: They used to call me "gringo".

Oscuro_Sol · Post by **Oscuro_Sol** » Fri Mar 03, 2006 8:08 pm

[QUOTE=Magrus]Meh, then she can say "I like you as a friend" to end the confusion. It makes more sense to come right out and say what you KNOW, in order to get further with what you want to know IMO. You make sure both parties involved know what is going on so no confusion occurs. Confusion and lack of communication leads to problems, misunderstandings and feelings being hurt from my experience.[/QUOTE]
If I say I like him as a friend then he won't think I like him like him.
But yeah. Confusion isn't fun.

[QUOTE=Magrus]Black roses, and no wedding.

Her family would freak if they found out she married a white boy though. :laugh: They used to call me "gringo".[/QUOTE]
Hah! :laugh: