Originally posted by Vivien:
<STRONG>I don't understand your question? What are you trying to say? Clubs, cafe's, even bookstores, *shrug* we go to all sorts of places where there are men </STRONG>
Bookstores are very good places for finding nice guys.
Originally posted by Aleldar:
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Bookstores are very good places for finding nice guys. </STRONG>
You're saying 'nice guys' don't go to clubs? Hmm..but we are looking for nice guys who know how to dance, so *shrug* a club seems as good a place as any
Originally posted by Vivien:
<STRONG>You're saying 'nice guys' don't go to clubs? Hmm..but we are looking for nice guys who know how to dance, so *shrug* a club seems as good a place as any </STRONG>
Maybe nice guys are just not the kind that are likely to make moves in a club... You should look on the dancefloor for a shy-looking guy and ask him to dance...
Originally posted by Georgi:
<STRONG>Maybe nice guys are just not the kind that are likely to make moves in a club... You should look on the dancefloor for a shy-looking guy and ask him to dance... </STRONG>
My theory is that the men hitting on/cutting in on our dancing are looking for you know, 'company' that night with no strings.
(Ask Fas for details, I believe we've had a discussion about this)
My theory then follows that the nice guys are the ones quietly sipping a drink in the waaaay back of the room...
Originally posted by Vivien:
<STRONG>You're saying 'nice guys' don't go to clubs? Hmm..but we are looking for nice guys who know how to dance, so *shrug* a club seems as good a place as any </STRONG>
I see, I was just wondering. So would you pass up the nice guy that can't dance then?
i did the whole "club" thing for years...was a regular go-outer...musta spent thousands of dollars, i wasn't really looking.....just pardoin', met lots of nice women but none i would want to settle down with...i think that after you turn 20 or so both sexes have to realize that the "nice" ones are either taken or don't want to lose their freedom...and then when you get older, your liver can't handle the disco style...so the "nice" ones all end up at home
My prognosis on the situation....chances of finding a nice partner in a bar are like winning the lottery, it's worth playing but don't expect to win...further more i think the good peeps will more often be found in the back of the library reading by themselves......heck to be honest, all us nice peeps are either at work or at home looking at the world through our pc's
anywhere is good to find love IMO but under the influence of booz....usually we find lust. In my town the men out number the women 4 to 1 so when you go to a bar it's a rather disgusting scene....
back to the topic...i really don't think "nice" guys always finish last...depends on what you mean i suppose. If you mean that when you go out on the town....the "bad" guy gets the girl and you go home alone...welp if thats what you mean i agree. If you mean that the "good" peeps in life always get the shaft...welp then i disagree.
Persoanlly i preferr life in both the "good" and "bad"...ya i'll hold the door for a strange women at the store but i will also tell you to stfu if i think you need to hear it...no i don't hit women or other lmao stuff yet i will not take abuse and can be just as cruel as the next "bad" person...but in the end i heavily enjoy my freedom I think if you go out looking for love then all you will find is lust...love and a life with sumone else just sorta happens from my experience....i never found shat when i looked
So what would then be the answer, hmmm fellow members. It is the more assertive, agressive man which usually gets the woman. Woman gravitate to strength, or rather apparent strength, actually this is true about men as well. The bad guys are usually the alpha males of the group, whereas the nice guys are usually not. But as a sex in general though woman do usually copulate with the bad guys, but they want to live with the nice guys(evolution don't you know).
Nice guys as such are not as assertive as their bad guy counterparts and thus less likely to get the attention of the girl. You see the general basic rule is that the guy goes after the girl, women tend to wait for it to happen to them, guys that do the same as the woman are just left in the dust. No matter what the supposed sexual revolution accomplished, this one social rule is almost always followed. In any case what do you think fellow members.
FuDd don't feel so bad, there are probably a lot of other people out there, you just have to find them, when you can not find them in the likely spots, find them in the unlikely spots.
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nice, bad, I don't know. I just tend to be me. I am who I am, and never gave a thought to what other people thought about me. I think that the nice guys tend to become more of a friend in a lot of instances. Once you get to know someone as a friend, it seems that there is a reluctance to get more involved on a more personal basis. Fear of losing a friend if things go bad and all that. Anyway, just my 2 cents worth.
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Originally posted by Bloodstalker:
<STRONG>I think that the nice guys tend to become more of a friend in a lot of instances. Once you get to know someone as a friend, it seems that there is a reluctance to get more involved on a more personal basis. Fear of losing a friend if things go bad and all that. Anyway, just my 2 cents worth.</STRONG>
I agree with you there.
I, personally, try to become friends with someone if I like them before I'll try initiating anything more than that because I'd rather end up with them being 'just a friend' than not even an acquaintance(sp?).
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Yeah, I know what you mean. Isn't it odd though that people get into a realtionship and grow to become each oithers friend as well and their partner, and this is what most people seem to want, but they resist doing it the other way around? personally, I have dated people I was friends with first, and still remain friends with afterwards. Not all of them mind you, but the majority. And when I haven't remained friends, it was over something like lying to me and sneaking around behind my back, which I would have terminated trhe friendship anyway without dating them.
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The trick to finding a partner is to stop looking for one. Focus on doing the things that you like doing, and you'll soon meet like-minded people. Even then, focus on being friends with them first. Game-playing is for soap operas. Be open, honest, and not desperate. Be comfortable with being alone and happy to be with others. Be. Just be. OMG! I accidentally COMMunicated! What was I thinking!
That there; exactly the kinda diversion we coulda used.
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