@Chrissy, it is not so much whether you actually use dear or schat c.q. schatje, but it also has to do with the way that it is being said. As Ubik posted, Dear can be replaced with many different words.
@Saigo, I am glad that you found happines.
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Originally posted by Chrissy: Saigo: I wasn't commenting on any of the advise given... I'm just telling youa ll I hate the word 'dear' I really hate it, and it doesn't even mean anything in my own language... it's got something that just makes me want to throw stuff around...
Sounds like you've got a good relationship going there BTW.
OK then Chrissy, what word you prefer then ?
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Saigo: Who knows... but I've met only one person that could get away with calling me 'dear' he used to be my best friend and.....
suddenly I know why I hate the word...
Revaltion time... (Never mind me, talking to myself again)
One of the things men fear most are the:
"Do I look fat(or whatever) in this"-question
Usually running away scared isn't the best reply (although properly the safest )
Neither should you tell the truth:
"Yes dear - these pants make your a** look fat" .... NO NO NO NO
Even if she tells you to be honest - never ever do that.
On the other hand, a categorical "no - you don't look fat" - is not good either - then you'll properly get:
"You don't even look at me anymore" or
"What do you know about anything - you don't love me any more" and replies like that.
One of the best thing to do, is to look at her for some time, and then:
"Wow - they really look good on you"/"Goes well with blouse" (or something like that)
Another thing to remember is to complement your "appendix"
Say stuff like: "hey is that a new eyeshadow - it really brings out the color of your eyes"
But also here is a fine line - don't ever try to use this with earrings:
"Wow dear - those earrings really enhance your ears" (trust me - she'll leave you so fast you'll be spinning for weeks )
What word do I prefer? All the others are fine with me, just don't use 'dear'...
I like hearing Yes hon, Ofcourse darling and You're right sweety just as much as any other girl... just hate the word 'dear'
Ubik: How many times do I have to tell I'm only into soft bondage? The Irish accent works tough
Originally posted by Chrissy: Saigo: Who knows... but I've met only one person that could get away with calling me 'dear' he used to be my best friend and.....
suddenly I know why I hate the word...
Revaltion time... (Never mind me, talking to myself again)
Relax Chrissy, you're among friends now. It's better you kept that thing burried.
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The five questions are:
1. "What are you thinking?"
2. "Do you love me?"
3. "Do I look fat?"
4. "Do you think she is prettier than me?"
5. "What would you do if I died?"
What makes these questions so bad is that every one is guaranteed to
explode into a major argument and/or divorce if the man does not answer
properly, which is to say dishonestly. For example:
1. "What are you thinking?" The proper answer to this question, of course,
is, "I'm sorry if I've been pensive, dear. I was just reflecting on what
a warm, wonderful, caring, thoughtful, intelligent, beautiful woman you
are and what a lucky guy I am to have met you." Obviously, this
statement bears no resemblance whatsoever to what the guy was really
thinking at the time, which was most likely one of five things:
a - Baseball
b - Football
c - How fat you are.
d - How much prettier she is than you.
e - How he would spend the insurance money if you died.
According to the Sassy article, the best answer to this stupid question
came from Al Bundy, of Married With Children, who was asked it by his wife,
Peg. "If I wanted you to know," Al said, "I'd be talking instead of
thinking."
The other questions also have only one right answer but many wrong
answers:
2. "Do you love me?" The correct answer to this question is, "Yes." For
those guys who feel the need to be more elaborate, you may answer, "Yes,
dear. Wrong answers include:
a - I suppose so.
b - Would it make you feel better if I said yes.
c - That depends on what you mean by "love".
d - Does it matter?
e - Who, me?
3. "Do I look fat?" The correct male response to this question is to
confidently and emphatically state, "No, of course not" and then quickly
leave the room. Wrong answers include:
a - I wouldn't call you fat, but I wouldn't call you thin either.
b - Compared to what?
c - A little extra weight looks good on you.
d - I've seen fatter.
e - Could you repeat the question? I was thinking about your
insurance policy.
4. "Do you think she's prettier than me?" The "she" in the question could
be an ex-girlfriend, a passer-by you were starring at so hard thay you
almost cause a traffic accident or an actress in a movie you just saw. In
any case, the correct response is, "No, you are much prettier." Wrong
answers include:
a - Not prettier, just pretty in a different way.
b - I don't know how one goes about rating such things.
c - Yes, but I bet you have a better personality.
d - Only in the sense that she's younger and thinner.
e - Could you repeat the question? I was thinking about your
insurance policy.
5. "What would you do if I died?" Correct answer: "Dearest love, in the
event of your untimely demise, life would cease to have meaning for me
and I would perforce hurl myself under the front tires of the first
Domino's Pizza truck that came my way." This might be the stupidest
question of the lot, as is illustrated by the following stupid joke:
"Dear," said the wife. "What would you do if I died?"
"Why, dear, I would be extremely upset," said the husband. "Why do
you ask such a question?"
"Would you remarry?" persevered the wife.
"No, of couse not, dear" said the husband.
"Don't you like being married?" said the wife.
"Of course I do, dear" he said.
"Then why wouldn't you remarry?"
"Alright," said the husband, "I'd remarry."
"You would?" said the wife, looking vaguely hurt.
"Yes" said the husband.
"Would you sleep with her in our bed?" said the wife after a long
pause.
"Well yes, I suppose I would." replied the husband.
"I see," said the wife indignantly."And would you let her wear my
old clothes?"
"I suppose, if she wanted to" said the husband.
"Really," said the wife icily. "And would you take down the
pictures of me and replace them with pictures of her?"
"Yes. I think that would be the correct thing to do."
"Is that so?" said the wife, leaping to her feet. "And I suppose
you'd let her play with my golf clubs, too."
"Of course not, dear," said the husband. "She is left-handed."
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Originally posted by Brink: Let's see if I can impress anyone with my fence-sitting abilities....
Nooooo !!!! You'll Attract Flaggs bloodsucking abilities ! And this is the place where you should learn not show off
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@Ubik, I guess you don't believe that I type really fast.
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@Ubik: Info like that is passed down in the genetics of men - you just know it
If your "appendix" asked you a question, you'd properly know the correct answer right away ..... and you'll properly also know the answer she wants to hear
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Isn't that perfection? 
You'll Attract Flaggs bloodsucking abilities ! And this is the place where you should learn not show off 
