Hmmmm. First, like CM, I hail from a pretty different mindset, and a day and age when things weren't quite as convoluted and muddied as they are now. I was born a typical 67-68 child, with all the pros and cons that free-thinking/radical generation brought on to their children. Hence, I was never given "the talk" but got advice along the way as soon as I started showing any interest in sex as such. I lost my virginity at the age of 14(on my birthday), as did most of my friends both male and female. It was a natural average for my generation. An interesting point is that my younger brother and his generation was aged 17-18 before they started "doing it." The average even reached 19-20 for a short period of time, before certain factors came along to lower it drastically again. My mind is still not made up regarding how old/young one should be, but I think 16 is a pretty good age for a boy, provided he has an understanding of what he's doing.
Which brings us to the present day, and a completely different can of worms to open. As far as I know you (Wench) live in Canada, and I have no clue as to how far that country has come regarding sex ed. and general knowledge. All I know is that when I first went to America, it was a complete non-topic despite being one of the most sexually charged societies I've ever encountered. I'm not getting into the why's and how's of that, but because of my rather liberated Scandinavian upbringing I felt like being in a monastery.
With the arrival of the internet and free access to porn, much of the innocence of sexual exploration has been taken away for good, and the questions bumping around in the minds of the hormonally challenged have become quite different. I do volunteer work for a teenage sex-advice hotline run by the Department of Health a couple of times each month, and the problems and stories I'm presented with boggles the mind.
My advice to you would be to be a pal, and try to inject the feeling of friendship, equality and quite a bit of humour into it. You're a woman, so a good suggestion would be to take it from there, and explain to your son the basic sexual motivation/preferences of women/girls that he won't get from the mind-numbing sexual overdrive of the current "information age."
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[QUOTE=Lestat]I think your son is a lucky bastard to have a great & sensible mother in this matter.
I agree with most but I'd set the ages slightly higher, 15 & 18 maybe. And education about certain matters (safe sex) from the onset of puberty.[/QUOTE]
I agree with Lestat he is a lucky b-.......kid
....well, given that their both mature and understand the full responsibility with what they do and accept any consequences that arise from said actions I think 16 is a reasonable age. I would say 18 but if you restrict kids so much they'll just go ahead and not listen to you and do something stupid because you locked them up and didnt allow them to do anything...so 16 would be ok.....though Im no parent so this is just my opinion and not my experience
I agree with most but I'd set the ages slightly higher, 15 & 18 maybe. And education about certain matters (safe sex) from the onset of puberty.[/QUOTE]
I agree with Lestat he is a lucky b-.......kid
....well, given that their both mature and understand the full responsibility with what they do and accept any consequences that arise from said actions I think 16 is a reasonable age. I would say 18 but if you restrict kids so much they'll just go ahead and not listen to you and do something stupid because you locked them up and didnt allow them to do anything...so 16 would be ok.....though Im no parent so this is just my opinion and not my experience Wondering how vampires live the life they live.....
seriously I dont know how they sleep during the day, I have a twitch everytime I hear a loud sound as I slumber, everytime ....Im just waiting to pounce on the poor mortal who creates a sound while I sleep in during the day. /rant
seriously I dont know how they sleep during the day, I have a twitch everytime I hear a loud sound as I slumber, everytime ....Im just waiting to pounce on the poor mortal who creates a sound while I sleep in during the day. /rant
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Nice input Fas and Magrus.
In addition, there's more to it than releasing urges and your proverbial "curiosity."
Another thing to consider is how your son would behave and see things AFTER he has done it. Of course, one would never know, but at least have your child prepare himself (see Magrus' post) and give him the appropriate heads up when dealing these things on an emotional level as well.
Personally, I think 18.
In addition, there's more to it than releasing urges and your proverbial "curiosity."
Another thing to consider is how your son would behave and see things AFTER he has done it. Of course, one would never know, but at least have your child prepare himself (see Magrus' post) and give him the appropriate heads up when dealing these things on an emotional level as well.
Personally, I think 18.
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I decided to visit this thread,since upon coming here, I was thinking of just the same thing.
First of all, I believe that you are right in letting him explore his sexuality in his early teen years. However, always remember that he will be, to quote the others: "At a vulnerable time", where he may become frustrated and choose the WRONG partner. With that in mind, consider the risk of the awful...STD!!!
I believe you can forget about what he is doing, but NOT forget WHO he is "doing it" with, so keep a close eye on his RELATIONSHIPS, talk to him about different kinds of birth control, and lastly, the mistakes he could make and the STD's he could contract.
There's my 3.5 cents.
tootles.
I decided to visit this thread,since upon coming here, I was thinking of just the same thing.
First of all, I believe that you are right in letting him explore his sexuality in his early teen years. However, always remember that he will be, to quote the others: "At a vulnerable time", where he may become frustrated and choose the WRONG partner. With that in mind, consider the risk of the awful...STD!!!
I believe you can forget about what he is doing, but NOT forget WHO he is "doing it" with, so keep a close eye on his RELATIONSHIPS, talk to him about different kinds of birth control, and lastly, the mistakes he could make and the STD's he could contract.
There's my 3.5 cents.
tootles.
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