It's been a long time since the final battle with Dermin, but Elminster hasn't come around a second time yet. Surely one of he trigger conditions isn't being met, but I have no idea which one. For those that have finished the romance, what triggers it? Could you relate exactly how it happened in your game? For example, one of the earlier events in the Jaheira romance script is triggered by resting outdoors after the dialog has progressed to the discussion about settling down.
Also, if this turns out to be that bug with characters being incorrectly marked as dead, how would I troubleshoot it? I how to use the CLUA console commands, but I'm unsure what commands you can use to find out if the game thinks a character is dead. Jaheira did get killed once, so perhaps that has caused a problem.
The weird thing is that in the Underdark, I know the romace was still "on," because she reacted positively to my squirming away from Phaere, but when I go into the graveyard district, Bohdi doesn't try to kidnap Jaheira. Maybe the "reverse vampirism" quest is only triggered if you've completed the romance script?
Any help would be appreciated!