Ah...so maybe it is the patch that makes the difference. Let's hope so! I read in the readme file that it is supposed to solve the kinks in the Jaheira romance, and other possible problems not listed.
And yes, speaking of Jaheira, I agree with you Jennabard, the mourning period does seem unusually brief. I think that any number of explanations are likely.It could be a cultural thing, she is elven and Druid afterall. Elves are of course myth, but I seem to recall that Druidic society (from the little that's known about it anyway)viewed life and death much differently, as a natural cycle. Death was not so much a sad event, or a conclusion, but rather part of a never ending process. Indeed, sometimes it was viewed as a sort of renewal. I don't know if you're familiar with tarot cards, but the death card actually symbolises new beginnings. I sometimes wonder if the Irish wake is a holdover from those old beliefs.
It could also be that different people deal with grief in different ways. Personally, I tend to internalize grief, and do almost whatever I can to distract myself.
Or it could be a simple case of oversight on the part of the game developers. In their zeal to make Jaheira a romance interest, they overlooked some of the potential ethical issues.
And back to Anomen, yes, he's done extroardinarily well under the circumstances. I agree that his initial attitude is very much born from profound insecurity and the fear that he could become his father (which of course happens if you don't do his tests, I think he becomes chaotic neutral and goes a little berserk). He's actually a very complex and interesting character, and I think that many people, because they're initially turned off by his arrogence, don't take the time to find out what happens if you take the time to listen and try to understand him. I think it's true about him moreso needing a good friend than a lover, during those dialogues I felt moreso that I was councilling a friend through difficulties than that I was engaged in "lovetalk." That is why I miss it during this silent phase, it was interesting to watch it develop. Needless, to say, ToB should be intriguing on this score.
Ok, now I really need to get on with my day!