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Posted: Fri Nov 15, 2002 9:41 pm
by C Elegans
Originally posted by Zelgadis
@CE, no flaming? I was all ready for some witty reparte and such. Drat 
@All, I think I need to avail myself of your obviously great knowledge of women. What does it mean if a girl treats you like she wants to marry you and have your children one day every three weeks or so, acts like you are a pest a few days in those weeks, and on the days that are left like you are either a friend or just an aquantance?
Sorry
Try emotional blackmailing, implicit communication or irrational and invalid arguments in serious discussions if you wish to be flamed by me
I would say it either means the girls has a personal problem, does not know what she want herself, or it means you send out very ambigious signals to her. It may also mean the girls behaves that way because it is according to the western female stereotype, and she believes, consciously or subconsciously that's what men want because that's what they are familiar and safe with.
Posted: Fri Nov 15, 2002 9:42 pm
by Tybaltus
Originally posted by Scayde
LOL..you won't after you make up a few times
All my relationships have never reached the point where we make up like that...it was more like:
1) "Gee wiz....maybe its better if we just stayed friends."
or
2) "Hmmmm....ok. Im going to go over to the other side of the room. Please.....dont breathe. It saves us both a lot of trouble"
Posted: Fri Nov 15, 2002 9:42 pm
by Bloodstalker
@Ty....it's an aquired taste.
Posted: Fri Nov 15, 2002 9:43 pm
by Zelgadis
Ohh, 25 isn't old... i was thinking old like around fourty... ok, I can stop twitching now
Posted: Fri Nov 15, 2002 9:46 pm
by Zelgadis
Originally posted by C Elegans
I would say it either means the girls has a personal problem, does not know what she want herself, or it means you send out very ambigious signals to her. It may also mean the girls behaves that way because it is according to the western female stereotype, and she believes, consciously or subconsciously that's what men want because that's what they are familiar and safe with.
Hmmm... put a check next to 'all the above,' I think... any advice?
Posted: Fri Nov 15, 2002 9:50 pm
by Scayde
Originally posted by Zelgadis
@CE, no flaming? I was all ready for some witty reparte and such. Drat
@All, I think I need to avail myself of your obviously great knowledge of women. What does it mean if a girl treats you like she wants to marry you and have your children one day every three weeks or so, acts like you are a pest a few days in those weeks, and on the days that are left like you are either a friend or just an aquantance?
Honestly ......it could be as simple as this..1. She likes you, really likes you. and 2.also likes her space.ie: does not like to spend all of her time with you, wants to spend some of it doing other things, with or with out other people, and 3 feels rather casual andnon-commital at this stage of your relationship, or her stage of emotional developement..
This does not have to reflect that she does not like you though....she may infact be in love with you..but need more "down time" than you do in a relationship.
Hope this helps......
*HUG*
Posted: Fri Nov 15, 2002 9:52 pm
by C Elegans
Originally posted by Zelgadis
Hmmm... put a check next to 'all the above,' I think... any advice?
Yes: describe her behaviour pattern to her as you did to us here, tell her it makes you confused and ask her.
Posted: Fri Nov 15, 2002 10:08 pm
by Zelgadis
Hmm, I'd rather not force the issue, I'd rather modify my behavior or something... when i checked 'the girl has a personal problem,' I mean that with a heavy check. I just want to make her happy, not do something that might make her uncomfortable.
Posted: Fri Nov 15, 2002 10:16 pm
by Tybaltus
Originally posted by Zelgadis
Hmm, I'd rather not force the issue, I'd rather modify my behavior or something... when i checked 'the girl has a personal problem,' I mean that with a heavy check. I just want to make her happy, not do something that might make her uncomfortable.
Well thats a different story then....I cant give any advice about relationships, but I can tell you about getting people out of depressions or personal problems, as I have yet to fail at that. Ive managed to help 3 friends out of tough situations in their lives. And they were so thankful. I was just glad to be helpful for once.
So what I recommend to alleviate the personal problems, tell her how much you care about them. Show her that there is light, because often times, when a person is down, it makes it that much harder to see the light. Beyond that, it can get personal, so I cant help you out much. But trust me. People feel so much better to know there is someone there, and if you are sincere and true to those words it can mean something for everyone. You cant lie about something like this. So stay true, but say whats in your heart.
Right? Thats just what Ive done.
Posted: Fri Nov 15, 2002 10:35 pm
by CM
Dont get me started on women....had a slightly different scenerio back in Jan or Feb. These guys helped out big time.
*ignores Dfs*
Posted: Fri Nov 15, 2002 10:38 pm
by Aegis
Posted: Fri Nov 15, 2002 10:41 pm
by CM
Originally posted by Aegis
And here I thought you were flirting with me...
She is so cruel isn't she?
Forgot about them....join the anti-df side (hmmm....that just doesnt sound right
)
Posted: Fri Nov 15, 2002 10:45 pm
by Aegis
Originally posted by CM
She is so cruel isn't she?
Forgot about them....join the anti-df side (hmmm....that just doesnt sound right )
But I am a DF... A male one, that is...
Posted: Fri Nov 15, 2002 10:47 pm
by CM
Originally posted by Aegis
But I am a DF... A male one, that is...
Damn you are already lost.
Might as well put you out of your misery then
*starts to load his desert eagle*