Where can I find a Nice, Pretty, Intelligent Girl??

[ObsidianReturns]

You see, usually, I've had no trouble finding girls to date for BRIEF periods, but usually, after a month or two, one of us gets tired of each other, and we part ways amiably.
Lately however, I'm finding those girls, well, boring immediately.

So, I'm on a mission, to find myself a GOOD girlfriend. I'll be starting University soon, and am wondering where good places would be to meet ladies over the summer.

C'mon my SYMian ladies you're all smart people, and nice, so where could I find people like you?

[Bloodstalker]

Actually, I'd say college is about the best place

[Scayde]

@BS:...LOL...Looking into 'Higher Education" BS ?

@Obsidian: I have always found the best way to meet people, is not to try. It has been when I want 'looking' that I have met the people I have cared most about. I think when you go about your life, doing the things you enjoy, the people you meet along the way tend to mesh well with you, since they were going about their lives doing the same thing. When that happens, you already have things in common, share a common interest, adn that is a fun way to launch a relationship.

Oh, and BS is right...just don't tell him

[fable]

It sounds like you want a long-lasting relationship, rather than a few months of a good time. Am I right in sensing this?

If so, I suggest first being absolutely sure. Wait a while to see if this is the case. You don't want to pull in a lady who thinks you're in for the longterm, only to find, two or three months down the temporal road, that your libido is itching and you're starting to think the grass is really much, much greener on the other side of the fence. Where some mighty fine fillies are hopping about.

To do anything else would be unfair to you. Even more, it would be really unfair to the expectations of the person with whom you formed a relationship.

If you think about it for a while and still want a relationship, why not see if any of the women with whom you had one of your month-long affairs is available and interested? Assuming you left rather than her, and she wanted to continue. You might get a drink thrown in your face if you don't handle it correctly, but as you've already found the chemistry works between you both, your halfway home.

[dragon wench]

Scayde is absolutely right, you almost never meet somebody special when you are looking. Every relationship I have ever had that has meant a lot to me... has happened when I was least expecting it.

Also... people tend to sense if you are looking.. and this can be a bit of a turn off in some cases...

That being said you could try getting involved in some sort of interesting organisation... who knows what might happen

BS is right though, college/university is your best bet. Besides, if you did meet somebody this summer, and then you go away in the Fall, do you really want to be in a long-distance relationship? Some people can make this work really well, but it can be tough.

[CM]

Well first keep low standards, as a nice pretty intelligent girl doesnt exist. Once you realise that, you are all good!

[frogus]

LOL @ Fable.

I agree - scrape the back pages of your black book And it will be interesting to see what various mental scars you have left your exes with

[fable]

Nicely put, @Frogus. But really, @Obsidian, those are the women with whom you've shared mutual attraction in the past. If you're not shy, and any of them remain friends, then give it some consideration.

If that doesn't work, don't push things. Just try to let a relationship start naturally, and see how it grows. The only thing different, now, is that you feel a commitment to making it grow taller and stronger. You'll need to invest more energy and commitment to it in the long run.

[ObsidianReturns]

This is why I love this forum, you guys all offer really good, wise advice.

And if not that, at least clever commentary.

@Fable, excellent point, going back through the back pages of my black book isn't such a bad idea. It works out pretty good too. One said no, but one agreed, so 50% ain't bad.

As for Scayde and Twisty, I like the point about not trying, and just doing things that I like, and will therefore run across people who share some of my interests.