men are wierd! (please spam)

[dragon wench]

Originally posted by fable


Men have a bit of a bum rap when it comes to sex. They're expected to live up to expectations of being sexual aggressors in all instances, yet at the same time they're condemned for the very same quality seen from a different perspective, as being shallow and interested only in one thing from women.



I suspect we'd all hear a lot less jaundiced nonsense uttered about the opposite sex if we only came to realize that they face the same situations we do, and deal with them, not as a single chromosonal group, but as individuals.

I think that this is true. Sadly, I think that in many situations men tend to get blamed when something goes wrong, whereas women are equally responsible.

Also, I believe that women can be just as sexually predatory, that such tendencies are based on individual tendencies, rather than on any sort of gender specific pattern.

I guess I have, albeit it jokingly, added my own commentary to the usual sterotypes...But more seriously, it is precisely because of this that I refer to myself as studying gender history rather than women's history. IMO, you have to consider the situations of both women and men in order to attain any sort of true understanding ......

[Aegis]

Originally posted by dragon wench
But I don't believe that women use men more than the other way round, I suspect it is is fairly equal.

I'm gonna have to disagree with this one. Because the majority of the male population still does think with "paedro", it is easier for women to get what they want because of that. I think that leads to more women using men in the long run, regardless of how "equal" it may be. Women, especially cougers, as they're called, tend to prey on younger, more sexually active males, using their experiance, or whatever they may have, to their advantage.

[Dottie]

@Fable: If you ever decide to sell abit of your humour, Give me a call.

[dragon wench]

Aegis, please don't take this personally because it is not meant as such. but right now I just don't feel like getting into a debate.

I'm sure we could argue about this all night, but let's just agree to disagree.

My own studies and experiences will contradict yours, because, after all, so much about this area is extremely subjective.

However, and I don't intend this to sound patronizing or offensive, I would suggest that you acquire a little more life experience before making sweeping generalisations in so serious a manner.

As Fable states, men and women are individuals. It is damaging and unhealthy to paint either with so broad a brush stroke.

[Dottie]

Originally posted by dragon wench
I think in this discussion it is also important to remember that historically women have been encouraged to hide their sexual desires.

Unfortunatly I think this is still true today, although perhaps to a lesser extent. I have rarely seen men being criticized for too much sexual activity, now women on the other hand...

[Tamerlane]

Men are wierd?

Well misinterpreted mostly, but not wierd

[Ode to a Grasshopper]

Originally posted by Dottie
Huh, when people talks about woman I always get the feeling I've never met one. (Joke about that all you want you little bugs ) I have suprisingly never met a woman that speaks a entirely different language, have entirely different motives etc etc.

I have, I was on holiday in Scotland and this old Japanese grandma came up to me, moved my extremely bemused person to an apparently more photogenic position in the old castle we were looking at, got another Japanese woman to stand on my other side, and had the second woman's husband to take my photo.
I did not speak this woman's language, and nor do I understand her motives in taking photos of complete strangers in ancient Scottish castles, however it was one of the more amusing (not to mention surreal) experiences of my life.

[Dottie]

I had a bet with myself about who would be the witty one... I guess I lost.

[Ode to a Grasshopper]

Originally posted by Dottie
@Georgi: Did you think it was funny, or are you laughing at me? Also, I hope I didnt unconsciously included you in that statement.

I'd assume the latter if I were you.Nonsense, Georgi's easy to understand. *hug*@Georgi.

[Ode to a Grasshopper]

Originally posted by Dottie
I had a bet with myself about who would be the witty one... I guess I lost.

Sorry to disappoint you, I decided to resist the temptation this time, I'll try to be more witty as I read through the rest of the thread.
It's a pretty funny story though, no?

[Ode to a Grasshopper]

Originally posted by Georgi
@Dottie Ode said that, not me

One day they will find a cure...

I deny everything, I'm a liscensed member of C.Y.W.A.o.T. Where's my lawyer?

How predictable. *slightly sad sigh*

[Dottie]

Originally posted by Ode to a Grasshopper
Sorry to disappoint you, I decided to resist the temptation this time, I'll try to be more witty as I read through the rest of the thread.
It's a pretty funny story though, no?

I think you misinterpreted me, What I said was more or less meant as a compliment. But I wont do it again...

[Ode to a Grasshopper]

Originally posted by Dottie


I think you misinterpreted me, What I said was more or less meant as a compliment. But I wont do it again...

Sorry, spending too much time spamming with Georgi has taken it's toll and I'm no longer capable of recognizing compliments. Thanks for the compliment.

[Ode to a Grasshopper]

Good points @DW and Fable.

[Beldin]

I know I'm asking for some serious flaming from my fellow males, but I've found it to be corrrect to sum it up in one sentence: "Men are pigs. " .

Sure, that's a simplification, but as a metaphor it applies nearly everywhere- be it the difference in "washing dishes before we use them" or the different approach to the laundry:
Women have 2 heaps: dirty and washed.
Men have :
1) Dirty
2) Dirty but useable for work in the garden/garage,
3) Worn once, usable after some airing,
4) fresh but not ironed, still wearable,
5) washed.

...and YES - the above statement applies to sex as well..men are less inhibited (that's a social thing, I think - mostly influenced by the immediate social environment) and men are most of the time (when interacting with females) thinking about getting her out of her clothes (or "into her pants" as it's sometimes put) - even if they're not really interested in the girl - and sometimes just to "prove that they CAN" do it....

I have yet to discover a (straight) man who is NOT a (metaphorical) pig....AND is able to prove it... (homosexuals are a different matter - sometimes THEY are the "better" women...) .


No worries,

Beldinhttp://www.smilies.org/basesmilies/ladysman.gif

PS: And just for the record :Yes, I'm "straight" and I'm a "pig" (and proud of it ) .