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07-22-2002, 02:41 AM
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I just got news that one of my close friends from way back during our kindergarten years to elementary to highschool to college and even after that has killed himself...
...I don't know why he would do such a thing. People who were close to him never had a single thought that he would do such a thing.
We grew up together in the same school all throughout. There were times we would hang out with other groups but we would still have time for each other.
Right now, I feel so freaking sad and at the same time so mad at him. We would chat at the MSN for hours and there would be no single clue that he's having problems.
He is also in the process of having a church wedding next year, however he is already married to his wife by civil rites.
You know, he's my third friend who killed himself... and what bothers me is that all three of them were my close buddies too who played PnP AD&D back in the '80's and early '90's.
Are ardent AD&Ders escapists? I hope not and I hope that these incidents are just coincidences.
Thanks for listening.
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07-22-2002, 02:55 AM
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Words can never adequately say what you mean under these circumstances. I feel sorry for you, Mah  . It's even harder knowing you didn't get any clues he was considering suicide. I have only one advice: don't blame yourself. I'm sure it ěs some cruel coincidence. Know that, if you feel the need to talk some more, there will always be people here, willing to listen  .
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07-22-2002, 03:06 AM
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Words can never adequately say what you mean under these circumstances. I feel sorry for you, Mah . It's even harder knowing you didn't get any clues he was considering suicide. I have only one advice: don't blame yourself. I'm sure it ěs some cruel coincidence. Know that, if you feel the need to talk some more, there will always be people here, willing to listen . | Same here, @Mah. I'm lost for words, but I second E-Mans posting.
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07-22-2002, 03:23 AM
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07-22-2002, 03:36 AM
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My condolences Maharlika.
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| | | ...though I must admit, I'm still at the denial stage.
We even had a bet whose gonna lose his hair first...
...but I won getting a child first...
...he said he quit his vices a long time ago because he would want to have healthy sperms...
...I guess being away from my country and not being there at his funeral tonight would only make me remember him when he was alive...
...but I can't finish my work now.
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I can imagine your work is the last thing on your mind now . It's important to remember a lot of the good things about your friend. Try not to get too carried away with grim thoughts, but think of some of the good times you shared with him . I wish you a lot of strength now, Mah.
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07-22-2002, 04:01 AM
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Hey, that's rough, my friend. My condolences too, Mah.
I'd say a lot of D&Ders are escapists, but not normally to the extent of suicide. Just remember, it's not your fault, so don't start blaming yourself. Like you said, you had no warning so there's nothing you could have done.
Like Eerhardt said, we're always here if you want to talk, and who can blame you for not being able to work? It's perfectly understandable.
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07-22-2002, 04:02 AM
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I can imagine your work is the last thing on your mind now . It's important to remember a lot of the good things about your friend. Try not to get too carried away with grim thoughts, but think of some of the good times you shared with him . I wish you a lot of strength now, Mah.
E. | ...nah. Just looking at my son's picture is enough to give me strength a whole lifetime. ...
...yeah, the missus too. 
Thanks Eery edit- you too, Odie... I'll try to join you guys later at the pub... I'm having a chat right now with some of my hs buddies...
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I'm no master of the English language, but I see you know what I meant, Mah . It's good that you can always find strength in your son and the missus. As for dropping by, you're always welcome after talking to your buddies... in your own time .
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As far as i am concerned this thread will stay for the time being.
Sorry to hear about what has happened Mar.
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Mah - I am sorry to hear this *hug*
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What can I say Mah?
My condolences to the family, and a prayer for the departed.
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@Mah, you have my condolences, and please, speak them as well to his wife and family. Like you, I lost a close friend to suicide when I was in my mid-20s.
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