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03-03-2005, 09:11 AM
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| | | How 'touchy feely' are you?
No, this is not a thread designed to generate hugs for Fas 
Seriously, I was a bit curious, following a conversation I had recently with a friend on the subject, about how openly affectionate people are.
Do you hug and touch freely without really thinking about it, regardless of how well you actually know a person?
Are you more the reserved sort who only initiates any kind of physical contact with people you know fairly well?
Are you the sort that is even a bit reserved about hugs and such with people you know well and feel close to?
Or, are you simply not interested in hugging or touching, except in relation to sex?
I tend to fall somewhere between the second and third category, depending on my mood and the person(s). I'm not frigid or anything, I'm just very conscious of personal space. 
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03-03-2005, 09:24 AM
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| | | My reply would be: not at all. I have very limited interest for physical contact except sex. I never hug my friends, I never feel the need to. This is however not at all related to issues of "personal space" or physical reservation, it's merely a question of me not getting anything out of it. Sex I do get something out of, and when I was younger I enjoyed having sex with handsome strangers as well as familiar lovers and boyfriends.
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03-03-2005, 09:26 AM
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| | | I'd consider myself quite a huggy guy, I like to have a hug, be it with my gf, mum or cats. Beyond that I'm quite affectionate with my friends, I'll hug them if I haven't seen them in a while or something exciting happens or whatever, but only close friends, (thankfully I have quite a few).
Me and some of my male mates freak out homphobic blokes in pubs by hugging each other sitting on each others knees then walking up to them to scare them, but thats more messing about than being touchy feelly. Don't know if that answered your question or was just one of my mad rambles.
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03-03-2005, 09:27 AM
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Originally Posted by C Elegans My reply would be: not at all. I have very limited interest for physical contact except sex. I never hug my friends, I never feel the need to. This is however not at all related to issues of "personal space" or physical reservation, it's merely a question of me not getting anything out of it. Sex I do get something out of, and when I was younger I enjoyed having sex with handsome strangers as well as familiar lovers and boyfriends. | My goodness you almost sound like a floozy! Handsome strangers eh.....you minx!
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03-03-2005, 10:41 AM
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| | It all depends on my relationship with the person I'm with. If the other person is ok with it, I'll be affectionate and cuddly. If not, I'll keep my distance. A good number of my female friends take advantage of the fact of my being a male that will hug them and cuddle without groping them like a lot of other friends they have.
I've always been distant to most people, but if I get close to someone, I'm extremely affectionate I suppose, especially with a girlfriend. Quote: |
Originally Posted by Macleod1701 Me and some of my male mates freak out homphobic blokes in pubs by hugging each other sitting on each others knees then walking up to them to scare them, but thats more messing about than being touchy feelly. Don't know if that answered your question or was just one of my mad rambles. | I used to do the same thing, it's such a simple action and people completely freak out with it.
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03-03-2005, 02:40 PM
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Originally Posted by Macleod1701 I'd consider myself quite a huggy guy, I like to have a hug, be it with my gf, mum or cats. Beyond that I'm quite affectionate with my friends, I'll hug them if I haven't seen them in a while or something exciting happens or whatever, but only close friends, (thankfully I have quite a few).
Me and some of my male mates freak out homphobic blokes in pubs by hugging each other sitting on each others knees then walking up to them to scare them, but thats more messing about than being touchy feelly. Don't know if that answered your question or was just one of my mad rambles. | I'd pretty much second that, the latter is on ocasion a turn on for chicks as well
And as for CE being a floozy.... Well duh  Had you not noticed 
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03-03-2005, 05:10 PM
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| | I'm fairly reserved with people I don't kow, but pretty touchy with my wife and daughter..
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03-03-2005, 07:28 PM
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| | I used to be VERY touchy-feely, until I ran into instances of reprimands. Still, I do tend to get my share of them from people I know now and then, mostly family, but some friends as well.
I often do feel quite close to a woman. So, restraint notwithstanding, I can be VERY touchy-feely with them. Still, as of these days, I am very cautious of their authorization.
In all, I have a hunch that when a woman decides to become close, it may become quite a surprise.
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03-03-2005, 07:35 PM
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| | | I'm very not touchy feely.
I used to be, but not so much anymore. I'll hug close friends when I haven't seen them for a while, or if they/I am going away for any length of time, generally because they initiate it. To me, hugs have no sexual meaning. It's just a form of body contact offered for emotional support reasons.
As for my lady loves, I don't do public displays. Holding hands, cuddling etc is about as far as I go in public.
I think in general, I'm more affectionate to most animals than people.
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03-03-2005, 07:41 PM
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Originally Posted by dragon wench Do you hug and touch freely without really thinking about it, regardless of how well you actually know a person? | Hmmm. I would hug most of my close friends, but not people I've just met! Then there are people I would hug in certain situations, like friends from work, who I wouldn't hug at work, but maybe saying goodbye after a night out drinking! So no, I'm quite reserved on the huggy front. Except when it comes to the boyfriend, and he gets more hugs than he knows what to do with.
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03-03-2005, 07:46 PM
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I ain't a touchy person. I don't mind showing affection, but it has to be someone I feel very close to. I'm just not much of a hugger I suppose.
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03-03-2005, 07:51 PM
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Originally Posted by Bloodstalker I'm just not much of a hugger I suppose. | You're just saying that to get loads of hugs, aren't you?
Hey, I've been around. Just quiet. You know, lurking.
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03-03-2005, 07:53 PM
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| | You have me confused with fas. He's the hug troller, not me. Besides, if you did anything other than threaten me, I'd swear someone stole your account
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03-03-2005, 07:54 PM
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Originally Posted by Georgi You're just saying that to get loads of hugs, aren't you?
Hey, I've been around. Just quiet. You know, lurking. | You've just been hiding is all.
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03-03-2005, 07:57 PM
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| | | I don't mind hugging or being hugged. But I haven't really hugged my friends at all, because I'm not sure if they would appreciate it.
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