sparky_kat, I hope things are getting better for you.
From what I've heard, some toddlers bang their heads when they have an ear infection (or a toothache or something similar), so maybe that's the reason why your child was doing it. I guess that's what you meant when you said your doctor thought it might be related.
You might have gotten whiplash from that fender-bender. Most people don't realize how much force is involved in a car wreck and they don't realize what happens to their bodies when they're in one. I'm glad you're recovering nicely.
If your mother-in-law is the type of person I think she is (based on your description and my experience with similar people), you need to be careful around her. Is she a goody-two-shoes who thinks it's her job to keep everyone else in line? If so, then she could indeed be scheming behind your back and trying to find a way to get you in some kind of trouble. Typically, it involves setting you up in a way that "gives you enough rope to hang yourself", so to speak, so that when you make a mistake, you will "prove" that she was "right" about you. The best way to deal with people like that is to be very nice to their face and not be confrontational. Any time she criticizes you, be nice and blow her off with a remark like, "Oh, it's so nice of you to be concerned, but really, it's alright." Any time she says she's worried about something, be nice and blow her off with a remark like, "Oh, it's really nothing to worry about. It will be okay." That's all you really need to say to her. She can't find as much fault with you if you're nothing but nice to her. Don't give her any ammunition she can use against you. If you want to go a little farther, if you can manage to convince her that you worship the ground she walks on, she will take your side and fight to the death for you. I know that type of person, and a little butt-kissing works wonders with them. I'm certain it's the safest course of action since they can be dangerous when provoked.
