[txa1265]

I think that you guys do have some extenuating circumstances, but otherwise agree with fable.

Since you had limited time before shipping out, perhaps she was not able to conjure the needed serious mindset to make the proper decision.

And that is important - my wife and I had our 13th anniversary this year, and while we are very happy and enjoy a great marriage, we are seeing too many failed - or virtually failed - marriages around us.

Communication is central to any relationship.

So when you two are together again, you need to have a serious discussion - not just 'so what gives with your answer to my proposal?', but more along the lines of 'what are your thoughts regarding me, our relationship, and its place in your life now and in the future'.

Take heart - the fact that she didn't reject you out of hand might mean she is taking this very seriously, which is good. Of course, if she is the type to avoid confrontation, she might have just been avoiding saying 'no' before you both shipped out - but that type of person would generally make use of indirect communications, meaning she would have said nothing to your face and then rejected you by mail/email.

Good luck - and remember that the answer you want might not be the answer you need.

Mike